psycholust:

POSSIBLE REASONS WHY PEOPLE FEAR COMMITMENT

1. Past Relationships that Have Gone Wrong

If you have ever been in a relationship that has gone horribly wrong, then you know that it can change your opinion on all relationships. You know that when you first went into that past relationship, you went in happy and then you came out miserable. When a new relationship presents itself, you can’t help but think, “Do I really want to do that again?”.

2. Lifestyle Change

Some people are very content in their single lifestyle. They may want to have a relationship with someone that they love, but they are not willing to give up the freedom that living and sleeping alone affords them. How do you know that you will be as happy if you allow someone else into your life?

3. Parents

Let’s face it, our parents’ behavior can affect us for the rest of our lives. So, if your parents had a less than ideal relationship, perhaps you are afraid to relive what you saw them go through.

4. Control

Most commitments require some sort of compromise and this can feel like a loss of control. A lot of people like to have full control over their lives and don’t want to give even the tiniest bit of control to another person. This fear of losing control can stem from other issues.

5. Fear of Ultimate Rejection

The nature of commitment is to give part of yourself to someone else. Whether it is a simple promise to be with no one else or if it is deciding to live together, you are giving something. There is always the possibility that, in the end, the person that you have given this to, will no longer want it. If you eventually wind up being happy with the commitment and it ends this way, it can be heartbreaking.

6. Fear of Change

Commitment and change often go hand in hand. Even if it is something very small that changes about your life when you commit, that change is still there. If you are the type of person who fears change, then chances are, you fear commitment.

7. Lack of Trust

Some people find it very difficult to trust another. This could stem from a lot of issues and it can cause other issues, such as fear of commitment. How can you commit to someone if you feel that you cannot trust them?

8. Fear of Loss

In a way this cause is also the fear of emotional closeness. If you have lost someone very close to you in your life, then you know that it can be devastating. You may not want to commit to a deep relationship, for fear that you will lose this person as well.